Trying to figure out if you’re ace or aro can be so goddamn hard because it’s like, trying to find the absence of something. Imagine you’re at a pond and you want to know if there are any turtles, or fish. Say you find a turtle and you’re like “great! Now I know there are turtles.” Or a fish, now you know for sure there are fish. Or you find both, and now you know for a fact there are both turtles and fish in the pond.
But like, if you don’t find any turtles it might be that there are no turtles or maybe you’re just really shitty at looking for turtles and maybe you THINK you saw a turtle over there or maybe it was just a stick. Maybe there are only a few turtles. Maybe you need to do something special to find the turtles. Maybe a bunch of these rocks are actually turtles but you couldn’t tell them apart. Maybe there are no turtles. You have no idea. Meanwhile some people are saying “Oh there have to be turtles! You’ll find them eventually ;)” or “How many turtles have you found in your pond?” or “Try planting some vegetables at the shore to attract the turtles.” Or “Oh no! What disaster happened to your pond that there are no turtles?” And you’re just standing there wet with an empty net and a tired expression.
But whatever because whether there are turtles or fish or not your pond’s ecology works just fine without them because that’s what eco-communities do they form a system around what they have. You aren’t missing anything if you don’t have turtles you just have a pond system without turtles. If someone tried to change you by pouring a bunch of turtles into your pond it would probably fuck something up.
So you don’t have to be entirely sure. You don’t have to search every inch of the damn pond before you can decide there are probably no turtles. If you want to take the aro or ace label because you think it fits go for it. And if you do find your turtles you can rename the pond. That’s fine.
artist tips
don’t save as jpeg
as a former yearbook editor and designer, let me explain this further
if youre only planning on posting your art online, them please save it as .png ;this is also better for transparencies as well
BUT
please, if youre planning of printing your art, NEVER use png. it makes the quality of the image pretty shitty. use jpeg or pdf instead. and always set your work at 300dpi to get a better printing quality - this means, the images are crisper and sharper and theres no slight blurriness. i had a talk with my friend who is currently taking design, and pdf is much better to use when youre working with a bigger publishing company because it still has the layers intact, but if youre only planning on printing your stuff at staples or at some small publishing store, the jpeg is the way to go.
this has been a public service announcement
Want a good picture to save as? PNG
Want a good printed picture? JPEG
In case anyone is having a bad night:
Here is the fudgiest brownie in a mug recipe I’ve found
Here are some fun sites
Here is a master post of Adventure Time episodes and comics
Here is a master post of movies including Disney and Studio Ghibli
Here is a master post of other master posts to TV shows and movies
*tucks you in with fuzzy blanket* *pats your head*
You’ll be okay, friend <3
i will reblog this everytime it shows up because any of my followers could have a bad night right now
All these links, besides the first, are broken. So here’s some more.
Here’s an emergency compliment
Here you can play 2048
Here’s a playlist of Bob ross
Here’s a website to watch movie’s and shows for free
Here’s a website to watch documentaries for free
Here you can to nothing for two minutes
Here you can break something. It’s good for anger
Here’s a button to press to make everything okay
Here’s a site to cut something up (TRIGGER WARNING)
Here’s a site that makes you a website depending on a song you choose
Here’s a gay comic. It’s adorable
Here you can spend Bill Gate’s money
Here you can draw your own island
Here you can learn about patterns website’s use
Here you can get your life stats
Here you can listen to the Tucker Zone (Headphones needed)
Here you can see how fast you’re moving
Here you can see the progress of time
Here you can see the future of the universe
Want some more?
Here’s the butterfly project
Here’s a snickerdoodle mug cake
Here’s a link to some free audiobooks
Here’s something to read when you feel like a burden
Here’s a secret
Here’s my playlist of some sea shanties
Here’s another secret
Here’s a link to some cool websites
Here’s a blog that gives you recipes for when you’re low on spoons
Here’s some Brony Headcanon’s
Some more? I’ve got plenty
Here’s 100,000 stars
Here you can control the weather (TW FLASHING IMAGES)
Here you can weave silk
Here you can make a castle of your own
Here you can make a kaleidoscope drawing
Here you can explore recursion
Here you can play a jelly block game
I’m back with some more!
Here you can draw with pasta
Here you can draw logo’s from memory
Here you can play this is sand, here you draw cool sand designs
Here you can play The Organ Trail
Here’s a customizable white noise website
Here you can simulate gravity
Here you can create your own guardian of the galaxy
Here you can make your own galaxy
Here’s a website you can get some support at.
to find later
now i have to deal with a whole country of moping people at least until carnaval season, i.e. late february. again.
don’t get me wrong: uncomparably worst things almost happened this year alone, and maybe because of that i got more sensible to the collective energy and tired of being anxious, i guess???
well… ying and yang, i guess…
Shout out to the day i killed the queen via AO3, legendary (name of the fanfic is jigens sick adventure, yes it is a sickfic)
Being on tumblr is like being a raccoon. I dig through the garbage for shiny things I like. Sometimes I find good things to share with my friends. Sometimes I find something horrifying, and also share it with my friends.
“that ship isn’t canon! that character isn’t gay!” well thats not what the voices told me
that one post with all the edgy anime boys in a therapy waiting room but it’s lain, rei, madoka, anthy, etc.
I put more effort into this than I’d like to admit lol










